We all know the story. Boy meets girl. Boy and girl fall in love, boy proposes. Boy and girl get married. Then they live happily ever after.
What happens to the Maiden name? It is common place that the woman will change her surname after marriage and be fully amalgamated into her husband’s family.
My question is why does the woman have to change her Maiden name.
1. What if she doesn’t like her husband’s name that much? To go from maybe a Michael to a Ogunlana or Koleosho might not be the easiest transition (no shade intended)
2. What if she prefers her original Maiden name? Nothing wrong with that right? She has only had the name since she was born
3. What if the husband likes her surname more than his? Can’t he change his name to hers, the only constant thing in life is that fact that things change, I guess your surname can follow that trend too
4. Why can’t everyone just keep their own surnames? That will prevent any confusion from either parties
5. Can we make a new surname together and roll with that
I have often wondered about this as someone who would like a hypenated surname. Technically there is no good reason why everyone could not keep their original names. I can however hear the words “culture” and “tradition” floating around.
On the plus side, there is no complication with having to change the names on your important documents, certificates and passports. It also allow you retain a name you’ve had all of your life so far, which will be important to you and your identity.
On the other side, taking your spouse’s name would help you to maybe feel more “married”. It would make for less confusion especially when children come into the picture. And invitations and letters addressing the both of you would be easier to address.
What do you think? Is keeping your maiden name important? Or does it not make a difference? Comment and let me know what you think
Until next time
Memoirs Of A Yoruba Girl