When this book was first released, it was surrounded by a lot of buzz and still is. I was curious about the life and story of Toke Makinwa so I decided to read the story. The book for the month of March 2017 is On Becoming by Toke Makinwa.
Credit to Amazon for this image
The book is a biography about Toke Makinwa’s life up to this point. She talks about her life experiences from childhood, the tragic loss of her parents and the breakdown of her very famous and public marriage. She uses her story to share key lessons on life and relationships in a candid way.
The Book’s Description
Toke never envisaged that she would be a successful media personality. She began her journey as a bubbly child but grew into a lonely teenager after the devastating loss of both her parents. For so long after, it seemed as though she would never find herself.
On Becoming is the real Toke Makinwa telling us what it is like to be one of the most talked about celebrities in Nigeria. She reveals the truth behind her 14-year relationship with the man she finally married. A marriage that ended
in an atrocious scandal that nearly brought her to her knees.
In the wake of the peaks and troughs that characterise Toke’s experiences, she now shares her struggle with blinding betrayal, finding forgiveness and drawing strength from her faith in God.
On Becoming is Toke’s journey through pain to victory.
It was interesting to get to know a bit about the person behind the name. Toke Makinwa is a private person so although she is a socialite, there isn’t that much we know about her apart from the information she has made available about herself. I found the parts she shared about her childhood and about her parent’s very open and honest.
I also appreciated her honesty in sharing the things she did about her marriage relationship because some of the things she shared are things that are very private and people would often want to remain that way.
I would have liked to know more about her career journey to success. As I touched on earlier, Toke Makinwa is someone that is private and only shares things about herself that she wishes to. I feel there would be a lot of useful knowledge to glean from her career story. Although she did touch on it very slightly when she talks about staying in London for some time, she doesn’t really explore this more.
At times, it felt it little like the story jumped from one topic to another, kind of losing us on the way there.
KEY LESSON (S)
- Do not ignore the red flags! While reading Toke’s story, it became clear there were behavioural patterns that were repeatedly displayed by Maje. It would have saved Toke a lot of heart ache had she have paid attention to the flags.
- Do unto others as you would have them do to you – from Toke’s account of her experience, it doesn’t appear as though Maje considered Toke’s feelings much. I am apprehensive to completely say that because there are always two sides to a story and we have not heard Maje’s side. It may completely flip the script.
- Love is powerful and very addictive – love clearly can make a person do things they wouldn’t have dreamt possible. Toke shares how she started using creams to lighten her skin to make her appeal more to her then spouse
- In the multitude of counsellors there is safety – Toke shares that a number of people warned her about her relationship with Maje and went as far as to say even his own sister warned her. There is definitely truth to the scripture in Proverbs 11:14.
MARKS OUT OF TEN – 6/10
Hope you enjoyed my review; do let me know if you read it yourself
Until next time
Memoirs of a Yoruba Girl
As you may or may not know, I am an avid reader though I haven’t read as much as I would have liked to over the last few months. With that being said, I’ve decided to start reading more and sharing with you what I’ve read in case in turns out you are looking for a good book too.
The book of the month for the month of January is “The Smart Money Woman: by Arese Ugwu
This was such a great book. It gives very practical financial tips in a way that is easy to relate to. It is a book I envision I will read over more than once though the first time I read it, the story was so interesting, I just wanted to find out what would happen.
It is a fictional story about a lady called Zuri who finds herself in a precarious financial position after a bit too much enjoying and not enough budgeting. We follow her story alongside a few of her friends as they learn valuable financial lessons that in turn improve their financial status.
The book’s description;
Meet Zuri. She’s living a fabulous life. Great car, gorgeous apartment, well paid job.
Meet Zuri. Broken down car, an apartment she cant afford, a job she’s about to lose.
What’s a broke girl to do?
With her best friends Tami (the flighty fashion designer), Lara (the tough oil and gas executive), Adesuwa (the conservative lawyer), and Ladun (the fabulous housewife), Zuri grows a little, learns a lot and navigates her way to making better financial decisions and building wealth.
This book tackles, debt, spending, the consumerist culture of the African middle class, the fear and misconceptions surrounding money and the lack of it, love, friendships, cultural and societal pressures and the roles they play in success. With each chapter comes a Smart Money Lesson, there to help you work your way up the financial ladder.
I liked that the author used a fictional (and quite interesting) story to help paint her picture and I also liked how the author has used the fiction to weave in key financial lessons which makes the book interesting and educational without being boring.
I think it does a great job of articulating key financial principles and is a great book for anyone who is taking an interest in financial education.
CONSTRUCTIVE CRITICISM / IDEAS
My only criticism is the way the story ends, which I felt was a bit sad. But given that I am a sucker for happy endings, this is probably why I think I felt this way.
I would have also liked more practical information on the investing portion, especially as a newbie investor. Some of information did seem geared to people who live and work in Nigeria which is fine, only that those of us across the pond want to invest too!
I think an accompanying workbook to go along with the story would be great.*UPDATE * An accompanying workbook is actually in the pipelines.
- Just because you have a well paid job, doesn’t mean you will automatically be wealthy. That takes some planning and money management
MARKS OUT OF TEN – 7.5/10
Until next time
Memoirs Of A Yoruba Girl
I’m quite excited to write this post today. For anyone who may have had a look around the “Memoirs Of A Yoruba Girl” blog, you will know I dabble in fictional writing from time to time.
My writing journey started with a story on this blog with a post titled the “The Colour Red” in around 2011/2012. (Here’s the link in case you wanted to read it https://memoirsofayorubagirl.wordpress.com/2012/01/29/my-first-attempt-at-writing/?preview=true )
At the start of 2015, I set myself a number of goals, one of which was to write a book. As the title indicates, the book now exists and is ready for download via Amazon Kindle. I hope and pray that by God’s grace, this will be the first of many.
Please kindly pop along to the Amazon Website via the link below.
Download, read, enjoy and give me your honest feedback. Most importantly, please share!
Hoping to hear from you
Memoirs Of A Yoruba Girl
This is a review on a series of books I read under the collective title of The Chronicles of Brothers. The book series is Christian fiction (also described as fantasy fiction) and is based on Lucifer, angel Michael and angel Gabriel as the focal characters. It begins from when Lucifer was still an angel in heaven through to his rebellion and expulsion from heaven and right through to Armageddon. The series currently has 4 books. There are still three to be written (I think) so the series isn’t yet complete. The story is fictionalised but is based on biblical facts of things that have happened and things that are yet to happen.
Of the four available books, I have read the 1st “The Fall of Lucifer”, the 2nd “The First Judgement” and the 3rd “Son of Perdition”. I will be shortly purchasing the 4th “A Pale Horse”.
The author, Wendy Alec is the co-founder of the God TV channels. The books will also be turned in movies though this is still in the early stages.
Wendy Alec’s descriptive language is mind blowing. The words she uses to describe the characters and the situations is second to none and it transports you right into the story. There are a few stories running parallel to each other within the series. The stories are both easy to follow as individual stories and the way the two stories are later intertwined is seamless.
I will agree that the front cover illustrations, especially on the 3rd and 4th book may not be to everybody’s taste, I like how they tie in with the main points within the story. I picked up the 1st book from a bookstore and the other two from Amazon/eBay. I will be picking up the fourth from there as well.
From a Christian perspective, its really nice to get a story which gives a “behind the scenes” view of what was going on before the fall of man and in the run up to “end times” – of course it is fiction but even still. The language Wendy Alec uses really resonates and through her descriptive language you see yourself in the story and can really identify with it. From a literary point of view, the books will have you hooked from cover to and cover and scrambling to purchase the next one. I would recommend these books as I thoroughly enjoyed them and will definitely read them again.
I have been reading a lot of Amazon kindle books of late and will soon review those as well.
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