Monthly Archives: March 2017
When this book was first released, it was surrounded by a lot of buzz and still is. I was curious about the life and story of Toke Makinwa so I decided to read the story. The book for the month of March 2017 is On Becoming by Toke Makinwa.
Credit to Amazon for this image
The book is a biography about Toke Makinwa’s life up to this point. She talks about her life experiences from childhood, the tragic loss of her parents and the breakdown of her very famous and public marriage. She uses her story to share key lessons on life and relationships in a candid way.
The Book’s Description
Toke never envisaged that she would be a successful media personality. She began her journey as a bubbly child but grew into a lonely teenager after the devastating loss of both her parents. For so long after, it seemed as though she would never find herself.
On Becoming is the real Toke Makinwa telling us what it is like to be one of the most talked about celebrities in Nigeria. She reveals the truth behind her 14-year relationship with the man she finally married. A marriage that ended
in an atrocious scandal that nearly brought her to her knees.
In the wake of the peaks and troughs that characterise Toke’s experiences, she now shares her struggle with blinding betrayal, finding forgiveness and drawing strength from her faith in God.
On Becoming is Toke’s journey through pain to victory.
It was interesting to get to know a bit about the person behind the name. Toke Makinwa is a private person so although she is a socialite, there isn’t that much we know about her apart from the information she has made available about herself. I found the parts she shared about her childhood and about her parent’s very open and honest.
I also appreciated her honesty in sharing the things she did about her marriage relationship because some of the things she shared are things that are very private and people would often want to remain that way.
I would have liked to know more about her career journey to success. As I touched on earlier, Toke Makinwa is someone that is private and only shares things about herself that she wishes to. I feel there would be a lot of useful knowledge to glean from her career story. Although she did touch on it very slightly when she talks about staying in London for some time, she doesn’t really explore this more.
At times, it felt it little like the story jumped from one topic to another, kind of losing us on the way there.
KEY LESSON (S)
- Do not ignore the red flags! While reading Toke’s story, it became clear there were behavioural patterns that were repeatedly displayed by Maje. It would have saved Toke a lot of heart ache had she have paid attention to the flags.
- Do unto others as you would have them do to you – from Toke’s account of her experience, it doesn’t appear as though Maje considered Toke’s feelings much. I am apprehensive to completely say that because there are always two sides to a story and we have not heard Maje’s side. It may completely flip the script.
- Love is powerful and very addictive – love clearly can make a person do things they wouldn’t have dreamt possible. Toke shares how she started using creams to lighten her skin to make her appeal more to her then spouse
- In the multitude of counsellors there is safety – Toke shares that a number of people warned her about her relationship with Maje and went as far as to say even his own sister warned her. There is definitely truth to the scripture in Proverbs 11:14.
MARKS OUT OF TEN – 6/10
Hope you enjoyed my review; do let me know if you read it yourself
Until next time
Memoirs of a Yoruba Girl
This year for me is a year to maximise my savings (I pray). Money is important for a lot of useful things so any way to save more money sounds like music to my ears. As such I’ve decided to share some of the tips I’ve tried (and will be trying) to stack up my money.
1. Do NOT buy on impulse – we all know that impulse shopping is a bad idea. We end up buying things we don’t need and will never use on impulse. Give it a few minutes (or longer) consideration before you drop the money.
2. Consider if you really need the item you are purchasing – is it a NECESSITY at this time to get red shoes if you have 2 pairs already? I am guilty of this, especially going to the supermarket and buy food that has appealed to my eyes but was not on my list to buy.
3. Can you get it for a cheaper price somewhere else? Price comparison websites are especially good for this.
4. Consider saving up towards the item you really want – this makes big purchases less impactful. For example you want to buy a £200 bag, it will be easier (or won’t affect your money as much) to save £50 a month for four months rather than take out £200 at one go. It may be when you come to buy the item, it may even be on sale 🙌
5. Cut your coat according to your size – if you are living on a student loan, it likely isn’t wise to spend like a celebrity😂 just stop. If you like the finer things you may need to save or get good looking duplicates.
6. Review your trolley/basket before you pay – when I go shopping (both online and in store) I often pick things without always thinking. Reviewing at the till means you can get rid of the extra stuff you don’t really need. Extra tip – I learnt recently that certain websites may give you an extra discount if they see you have an item in your basket and have not yet paid for it.
7. Remember the store/website you are shopping with are trying to extract as much as they can from your pocket, don’t give it away without a fight! The area around the till is lined with sweets and chocolate you never planned to buy. Always remember the big supermarket bosses don’t care about your budget, it’s your job to.
8. Check out Topcashback – I only just recently found out about this but it is such a great idea. If you are shopping online, all you need to do is to go on the Topcashback website first, then go to your website through them. You earn a percentage back of whatever you purchased. The best part is it doesn’t cost you any extra.🙌
9. Pack a lunch instead of buying one – this is one everyone already knows but when you look at the amount of money you can save, making lunch at home quickly becomes the more economical option.
10. Have a BUGDET- budgets are amazing simply because they allow you to see what money you have coming in and going out. However much you intend to save should be decided at the time you budget, to ensure you can actually afford it. I actually blogged about it here
11. Lock your savings away – this makes them harder to get to which means you’re less likely to spend them in an “emergency”.
Hope you find these tips helpful
Until next time
Memoirs Of A Yoruba Girl